Valentine's Day

So here it is again, Valentine's Day.  And in the course of just this morning, I've already heard from two of my female friends who hate this day, two that are indifferant, and a host of folks on Facebook that have posted some negative thoughts on the day. So let's deal with the obvisous....yes this is a "Hallmark Holiday".  No doubt about it.  And I also tend to agree with those that say "I don't show my love just one day a year"...or, "I don't show my love just because it's a certain day"....all very valid points.  However, much like Christmas, which isn't the only time of year that we "give"....it is a day set aside for giving.  Either a gift, or of one's self, or one's time. 

So when you don't participate, where does that leave the person who should have been the recipient of your card?  Do they also agree with the "it's just a stupid fake holiday".  It seems to me that your opinion might depend on which side of the holiday you're on.  If you HAVE someone you love, then this isn't really a big deal.  You both know it, and show it year round.  If you DON'T have anyone...well then, you maybe be a bit cynical about how it's not important.  The ones I find most interesting are those that are on the fence.  They have someone, but maybe it's early in the relationship, they aren't sure of their place...."where this is going"...and while they wont admit it....desperately want that card or flowers to show up, so they know where they stand.

It's a mess, and confusing, just like men and women have been for thousands of years.

In my personal opinion, and I would recommend this position to all my male friends in long-term relationships.  Send those flowers, and buy those cards.  The biggest reason is not so your lady knows you love her...she already knows.   It's so she can get that sense of satisfaction when that delivery guy shows up at her office...and parades those roses down the hallway to her desk.  It's for the benefit of the women around her, to make her queen of the pack.